Life After the Big 4-0

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It has been a very long time since my last blog posts, so long that I have turned the big 4-0 since then. I have to say that this monumental turning of age has made me reflect more on my life. I made a firm decision to take better care of myself in the sense of more exercise, cutting out negativity and negative people from my life. Im learning to not take things so … anything and like Elsa says – “Let it go..”  Im seriously liking this upgraded version of me. Plus, I think that having a “toddler” (Raven – 2yr old puppy) running under foot, along with an 11 yr old keeps me pretty busy!


These are the things that I have learned so far and have become my life’s mantra’s:

  • It’s OK to say no as long as you learn the art of doing so graciously.
  • Don’t waste time worrying and moaning about stuff you have no control over. Let it go.
  • Listening to someone — really listening — is one of the most important, respectful and rewarding things you can do. The morning after is rarely — if ever — worth the night before.
  • No one gives a crap if you go to the supermarket in sweats without makeup and your unwashed hair in a ponytail on top of your head.
  • Experiences are infinitely more memorable than stuff.
  • Confidence is beautiful and powerful.
  • It will always boggle your mind how some people will exceed the lowest imaginable depth of stupidity, incompetence and nastiness, while others will exceed the highest imaginable pinnacle of kindness, compassion and helpfulness.
  • Don’t live your life by anyone else’s expectations, taste, hopes or dreams.
  • If you rely on others for joy, you will never be joyful yourself.
  • You’ll never regret going out of your way to brighten someone’s day.
  • Being super-busy is not a badge of honor, importance, popularity or success. It’s perfectly OK — and  preferable, actually healthier  — to be not so busy.
  • Most bad behavior and bitterness is rooted in jealousy.
  • What makes you happy isn’t the elixir that will make someone else happy.
  • It’s not always someone else’s fault. Sometimes you have to look in the mirror.
  • You can disagree with someone’s opinions and beliefs, but it doesn’t make them wrong. And it’s probably best just not to go there when it has to do with religion, politics or love.
  • Friendships change over time. Sometimes they have an expiration date and they dissolve into fuzziness. And that’s OK.
  • Eye cream is your friend.
  • Stop waxing poetic about how good it used to be. Stop fantasizing about how good it might be in the future. Savor how good it is right now. Make your moments matter.
  • It’s nice to be thought of and remembered.
  • Sometimes you’ve gotta do stuff just because it’s the right thing to do. Often it’s uncomfortable. Usually it’s inconvenient. But it’s almost always worth it.
  • Elephants don’t belong in the room. Having the tough conversation is ultimately better than living with the energy-sapping misery of resentment or misunderstanding.
  • Some stuff just isn’t meant to be. The sooner you accept it and stop trying to force it to happen, the better off you’ll be.
  • A good night’s sleep is a gift from the heavens and can change everything.
  • People will make time for you if you’re important to them. And they pretty much won’t if you’re not.
  • Don’t let angry people get to you; instead, try to muster some compassion for them.
  • Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Stop wasting energy on stuff that isn’t your business. You just do you.
  • Stillness is restorative and healing.
  • Take one day at a time, one step at a time. Break down challenges into small, do-able chunks. It will all get done.
  • Life is what happens while you’re waiting expectantly for the next big thing on the horizon to come to fruition. Savor the everyday.
  • If you push yourself and focus on what’s good rather than wallowing selfishly in the negative, things will almost always improve.
  • Take a risk and have the guts to seize the opportunity, because it may not present itself again


Yes, life is tough at times, but that is just times! I can say Im pretty happy these days!! 🙂



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